safe exploration of emotions in sermon+Grapevine communications role in our churches

ust 13, 2010
safe exploration of emotions in sermon

I have found this thought has jogged my memory. The incident that I shared in the last audio-conference still sticks in my memory as a powerful way to bring healing and 'moving on' to a congregation. The 11 year old boy, tragically killed, lay in the opened casket in the sanctuary. 150 + class mates and many adults gathered round in the seating. The sermon was delivered and just prior to sealing the casket, the priest invited the young to come forward to say their last farewells. When the music started for this time it had the effect of giving permission for the young people to openly grieve. The song "Forever Young" created an atmosphere that supported the young as they spontaenously cried. They moved forward in a wave of emotion that was not superficial. Students were comforting each other in their grief. Words were not needed, just moments of tears and, for many, touching the still body of their class-mate in the casket. My own younger son,Matthew, who was sitting on my wife,s knee, was crying even though he was 5 years younger than the boy who was killed. Why are you crying? I asked. He said that he saw all the others crying so he had to cry too. Healing came to both my sons that day. The time of the tears I experianced as healing and life-giving to all those present. I was moved by what I was part of. The young people were allowed to express and explore their emotions in a safe place. The music stopped and the tears came to a gradual and natural end. I felt an incredible moment of peace and presence at that moment. The casket was sealed and the young boy was taken from the sanctuary. To this day, the young class-mates of the boy who was killed, remember his anniversary with a time at the place he died. They will text each other leading up to the time and now, almost 4 years later, I still see a special bond between those class-mates, including my older son Sam.
There is an important place in sermons for safe exploring of emotions. A place where words are at a minimum and the experiance can be a powerful source of healing, conversion and presence.
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Sunday, August 1, 2010
Grapevine communications role in our churches

Grapevine communications in our parish helps the place tick over. In it's healthiest forms it happens when someone passes on news that they heard "johnny was sick and in hospital". For those involved in visiting the sick, a few discrete phone-calls can lead to finding out the truth of the matter and, if in fact,Johnny has been taken ill then he can be visited at home to see if he needs any help. Sudden or unexpected illness is where the grapevine can be very helpful in caring for the needs of the congregation. Other times it is helpful is when someone starts experiancing financial, emotional or job related hardship. A word on the grapevine can lead to helping someone in real need. This is on top of the normal help organisation that you have official access to as a minister. I see the 'grapevine' supporting the helping organisation work in parishes. It is fast information sharing.
Where it is unhelpful is when there is too much holding onto 'this is my patch' approach to leading in a parish and not sharing your power/knowledge with others that want to grow the parish both spiritually and physically. Where people are left in the dark besides losing interest, they can also get rather disillusioned and antagonistic. This can lead to false or exagerated grapevine rumour mongering or character assasination on the part of those left in the dark, or out of the information loop. This does hinder real community grawth. Another unhelpful spin off of not sharing power/ knowledge is that you as a leader can become increasingly isolated and removed from the very people you are meant to be available to. The result is chaking the life out of the developing of real, life-giving community activities.
A motto is, keep people informed in as many ways as possible.
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Test your assumptions... 17/07/2010..Joe Hogan.

"Saying something twice communicates exactly the same thing both times" is a false assumption about communication.
Be generous, kind and unselfish were words I thought I understood and was, before I got married and had children. When I had children these words took on a completely different, close to the ground and more challenging meaning. As a single person I thought I was kind and I planned and was involved in many different good activities. But, in hindsight I did things on my own terms and when I wanted to do them. When I married and we had children I realised how shallow my being unselfish was. To do things to give my wife, Robyn a rest. To end up with many half empty cold cups of tea as I was called to help one of my children. Now, my oldest son is 15 years old, and I find that I am truly more willing to be interested and give time to my childrens own plans and concerns.Life has given me a deeper understanding on what the word unselfish means.
I would want a congregation to remember to be open to hearing the same word/s in their lives again and again with a sense of newness and anticipation of a deeper insight or meaning that would enrich their journey of following Jesus . Scripture is a living word and the same word can have a deeper meaning depending on when you hear or experiance it on your life's journey of faith.

My life's faith journey up to 2010.

I have had links with Otago for about 3 years. I did a paper on cross-cultural counselling 3 years ago. Prior to that, from 1980-1985 I trained for Catholic priesthood at Holy Cross College, Mosgiel. We had a good relationship with Otago Theological Faculty and I had the pleasure of being taught NT Scripture by Professor Ian Cairns, the then moderator of the Presbyterian, First Church in Dunedin.
I am from Gisborne, am married to Robyn, and have 3 very active children, Sam(15), Mary(13), and Matthew(11). I am currently building and Tutoring at Tairawhiti Polytechnic in construction. I am a fully qualified Secondary teacher, carpenter, and an active ordained Catholic Priest in 1987 at St. Mary's, Rotorua. My wife, Robyn,(we were married in 1992)is Anglican and we actively support both the Anglican and Catholic communities in Gisborne both in youth activities,sacramental programme delivery, in service leading and in music. I would like to learn more about IT computer technology as I find it quite scary learning new computer skills at 51. I would also like to become a more effective preacher, teacher, husband and dad through this course. I find all learning impacts on all areas of influence in my life